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Kathy Fray Kathy Fray lives in the North of Auckland, is the mother of three, and is a self-employed midwife, columnist, keynote speaker, managing director of BabyOK Products, and author of the ever popular book Oh Baby…Birth Babies & Motherhood Uncensored (which is available in our bookshop).The many challenges Kathy has experienced in her life make her passionate about self-empowerment and self-fulfillment. Read more about Kathy >>> Visit Kathy Fray's website now >>> The First Weeks of Breastfeeding For many of us, the first six weeks of new-motherhood are such a dichotomy! … Highs so high you know you’re tasting Heaven, and lows so low you know you’ve been through Hell. The post-natal period can be the most diametrically opposed, chalk-and-cheese moments of our female human existence – seconded perhaps only by the pain and pleasure of childbirth itself. read more>>> Houses that Don’t Cost the Earth
Kiwi women are commencing menstruation earlier and developing larger breasts. Kiwi men sperm-counts have halved. We have to ask ourselves why?
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There is usually an exhausting, painful grief a new mother goes through – no matter how good her pregnancy turned out to be, or how thrilling the birth was, or how beautiful breastfeeding has ended up becoming, or how crazily in love she is with her new baby.
It is pretty normal these days to start a baby on some solids at around 4-6 months. But don’t feel rushed at four months to quickly get them onto solids, as breastmilk (or formula) on its own is recommended for two more months.
At some time after the hazing ritual of childbirth, our “fight & flight” adrenalised womanly minds (muddy and bloody as they are), begin to fathom the irreversible depth of how transformational motherhood actually is … yes, the buck stops right at our front-door now, 24-7. There is nothing part-time about it, ever.
One essential aspect of lovingly nurturing and respecting yourself, is the intrinsic need to pay significant caring attention to your own intuition.
Unpaid word, or paid work: that is the motherhood question… but if you psychoanalysed the ‘answer’, its personality could be described as a deranged, confused, bewildered lost soul. There is no right or wrong response, only what is best for you.
When heavily pregnant with your first baby, you can often begin to feel rather swamped with peoples’ remarks regarding the pending sleep deprivation which is going to beset you once your baby is born… “You should appreciate your peaceful night sleeps while you can!” … “You know babies are easier to look after ‘in’ than ‘out’!” … “You’ll be falling asleep at 8 o’clock out of shear exhaustion, you know – no more late nights for you for a long while”.
These days, when we take on the role of motherhood, the majority of us sacrifice ‘fulfilling our own full potential’ in almost every other avenue of our lives - it’s not too dissimilar to the highly talented businessman who gives his career up to run a charitable trust close to his heart for a very basic income; or a top plastic surgeon who leaves his lucrative practice to dedicate himself to helping victims of war in a Third World country.
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